Sit down, play your favourite music album and read the interview with Zuzanna Buchwald, one of my favourite female model and Chris Ladewig, a guy to die for. We're talking about love, committment and hearbreaks. And we all wish to end up like Anja Rubik and Sasha Knezevic - with a fairytale wedding and living happily ever after.
IDOLL: What's the difference between love and romance?
Chris: Are they different? Isn't most love preceeded by some sort of romance?
Zuzanna: Romance is temporary, love is forever.
Zuzanna: Romance is a fleeing moment while love is much more complex. Romance for me is only with a guy, while love is something I give to family members, good friends, my dog...
IDOLL: Do you think men can love and it will be a pure love or they are just into romances? You know what they say, men only care about sex...
Zuzanna: I like to believe that there are men mature enough for true love. In my opinion they have to get fed up with romances before they long for true, unconditional love.
IDOLL: That's kinda Carrie Bradshaw's way of thinking but in the end she found her true love.
IDOLL: Will you agree that men think with dick? But then what about women? (laughs)
Zuzanna: I would, but women often think through a prism of their sexuality as well. I know many women more sex-oriented than their partners.
Zuzanna: I wanted and found both.
IDOLL: Lucky you!
Chris: If a girl can rock a blue steel, I'm sold (laughs). I'm joking. I once had an argument with a girl, who was very open about her dating with men purely for their money. She didn't care how they looked like or the type of person they were. If they bought her shit, she was happy. I made a suggestion of her shallowness. Then she critisized me for my shallowness for wanting certain things in a girl: intelligence, wit, humour, beauty, playfulness, maturity, a good heart...
IDOLL: Oh, so you mean she was a “gift-sweetheart”. Maybe she should start dating a Santa Clause?
Chris: We all want different things. and we all pursue those things which make us each as individuals happy. But personally, i need the complete package... and then some.
IDOLL: Are you in a relationship at the moment?
Zuzanna: Yes, for 3 years now.
IDOLL: So first you, lucky girl. Who's the guy?
Zuzanna: My boyfriend is a hot, smart and amazing Brazilian man. We met each other in a club in New York. I was a little drunk and he was very caring from the beginning. We started talking about art, Brazilian berry acai, universities and nightlife in New York. Soon after that we were inseparable.
IDOLL: And what about you Chris? Why are you single?
Chris: I'm single because my young girl who I loved recently decided her freedom was more important than our relationship. No hard feelings. What we had was truly amazing. We've made some awesome memories and we got to experience each other. Have to be grateful for that. Besides, we all have our paths to lead. My path is about changing lives.
IDOLL: People say it's hard to be in a relationship when you're a model. Travels all around the world, beautiful people around - it all makes you wanna cheat on your beloved!
Chris: Well there is no doubt that this industry is riddled with promiscuity and people cheating on bfs/gfs. But then again, there is just as much infidelity in the rest of the world. It depends on entirely on the person.
Chris: I've never cheated on a girlfriend and never will. It's just not who i am.
IDOLL: So you're just like me. But then again – everyone were cheating on me!
Chris: Considering the travelling lifestyle of a model, it may be easier... You may be away from your partner, your family, friends, then you meet someone, you connect in this forced intimacy situation and then it happens. So if loyalty isn't high on your priority list, being single would be better.
Chris: Like I said, it depends who you are, what you want. When I love someone I don't really want any other. Like Rihanna says, "make them feel like the only girl in the world". So for me it iseasy. It is not so much being a model, rather the distance which makes it hard.
IDOLL: I can bet many people tried to get your attention or flirt with you. The best and the worst flirt situations ever?
IDOLL: Okay, you both said you're not into cheating so let me ask you something. Would you consider a 3-some if your partner would propose it? Or would you rather pick 1 on 1 option?
Chris: No idea! It would be very very circumstantial. Have to cross that bridge when I get there.
Zuzanna: Yes, I would consider.
IDOLL: You've changed since I met you at the beginning of your career (laughs). Good girl went bad?
Zuzanna: I'm rather open and adventurous.
IDOLL: Are u sexually active when you're in a long-term-relationship?
Chris: I'm saving myself for when I'm married. (Laughs) Just kiddin.
Zuzanna: Active and monogamous.
IDOLL: What is the key to a successful relationship?
Zuzanna: I don't know if there is one. Every relationship is different and its happiness is based on the needs of the couple. In my case: common interests, the ability of having fun together, mutual understanding (despite the cultural differences), mutual (I hope) attraction, support that we give each other are surely some of the things that keep us together.
Chris: Wanting the same things. Having similar perspectives on life and what you want from it. Wanting to be with each other. That "want" is important.
IDOLL: Yeah but it doesn' work sometimes.
Chris: Passion! Romance, feeling the love. The desire to be with your loved one. And communication is key! each giving 100%. There must be balance in the relationship and complete trust and honesty. Your partner needs to be your best friend.
IDOLL: If you could pick - a good one night stands everyday or a long-term-partner, what would you chose?
Zuzanna: Long term relationship. Healthier. More interesting and much more of a challenge.
Chris: I'm quite old school. I fully believe in having a certain exclusivity, and I am a hopeless romantic, so long term life partner for sure!! Freedom is happiness, but happiness is best shared so share your freedom with someone you love. Pure true love is like the cherry on the cake of life. Everything is just that little bit better. Life is just more meaningful.
IDOLL: The worst break up ever?
Chris: Maybe this last one, because I loved the girl with all my heart, thought she was "the one". And for that all be suddenly taken away and having no control over it. it hurt. It wasn't a nasty breakup, there was no reason for it to be, we just wanted different things. Now, life continues. You can't control situations but you can control how you think about them.
Zuzanna: Every break up is hard, I really can't pick one. I am very emotional and I get attached to people quickly, so I suffer almost every time.
Chris: Happiness is a choice! Sometimes you just gotta return the book to the library and take out another one. Plenty of interesting books out there to read.
IDOLL: Yeah, sea is full of fish and wood is full of trees. So that will be the last question. Do you believe in love at first sight?
Zuzanna: As a big romantic I would like to believe in one. I know that sometimes you just know that someone is a great person by looking at them, but love, in that case, is too big of a word.
Chris: No, I don't believe in love at first sight. But I believe in chemistry and that "connection"- the spark which makes a person stand out to the rest, which ultimately could lead to love.
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